What My Mother Taught Me
May 12th, 2009
Almost twenty years ago a 73 year old woman approached me regarding upper eyelid surgery. She had lost her husband some 5 years prior. Having completed her grieving, she was ready to become socially active again. I knew she had grown up during the Great Depression on a farm in western Pennsylvania. She had been a nurse while her deceased husband had been an iron worker for 30 years. Their entire life had been very frugal and simple. They had retired to Yuma, Arizona.
She had a minor heart condition and needed cataract surgery. I didn’t believe cosmetic surgery was “right” for her, so I insisted she proceed with cataract surgery. She completed cataract surgery in both her eyes, following all the after-care instructions. In the interim, she began talking about not only eyelid surgery but also face lift, forehead lift and lip chemical peels. She finally insisted on having cosmetic surgery after I had deflected her request some three years earlier. Now she wanted it all, if I didn’t do it she would go elsewhere!
I took her aside and said, “Mother, I think I understand. Here is what we can do and it will take some time.” Over the next year or two my mother had the works, one procedure at a time. She is now 93 years old and has been sharing her life with a younger man (85 years old) for the past 19 years. It was having a new man her her life that had kindled her desire to ditch the wrinkles. She not only looked younger, but she also had a renewed interest in living life.
This experience taught me many things. Age is a relative term and it is unclear why something starts to bother us, when it hasn’t been an issue before. Life changes may contribute to embracing new perspectives and perhaps lead to actively seeking some type of transformation. You are never too old to want to look your best!
Melissa’s Blog: 11 and counting!
May 8th, 2009
It’s May and I couldn’t be happier. With only 11 days until my surgery, I’m gladly watching each day go by, but I’m also very busy preparing for my before and after patient responsibilities. Dr. Bashioum has provided me with an extensive packet of information that covers preparations for surgery, as well as after-care instruction. He does this in an effort to assure the very best surgical results.
One of my responsibilities at hand is to schedule a pre-operative physical evaluation. Because Dr. Bashioum’s goal is to provide me with exceptional medical care and in doing so, he insists on having the medical evaluation and report completed by my primary care physician within the two weeks prior to my scheduled surgery. He told me that in his practice, he limits elective cosmetic surgery to healthy patients. So, some of the items that are included in this evaluation are to check my medical history, review and compile a list of any allergies, medications and past surgeries. I can also expect a complete physical exam, a check of vital signs like heart and lungs, etc. Barring any unforeseen health problems, I’m on deck for surgery in less than two weeks. My coming blog entries will include video clips that will be filmed on the night before the big day and my very first reflections in the recovery room after my surgery. You’ll have a unique opportunity to follow my progress to the conclusion of my journey!
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